The Waterfall Concept; A blueprint for addiction recovery
Given love and opportunity, every child and adult can recover. All who know this and have the capacity to help others should assist as they can. (Dallin H.Oaks)
A Recovery Thought
I don’t know if I was born an alcoholic. I do know that when I had my first drink an alcoholic was born.Kieth D.
Weak things shall be made strong
Confession of a sex addict: I am an addict. Just as a user of drugs takes a hit to get high, I access the powers of my mind, it’s memory and creative powers, and get high on my own brain chemicals through memories and fantasies.
Turning over my mind and will to the Savior for his care and keeping … and leaving it there.Anon
Addiction is a disease of the soul, the ultimate loneliness.Scott Peck
One day at a time …self-will run riot … turn it over to God … powerlessness … let go, let God …live and let live … surrender … powerlessness over people, places and things … it works if you work it!AA quotes
If I am the problem, I am also the solution.Anon
Don’t believe your intentions or your words, your behavior speaks the truth about you.Roger Stark, The Waterfall Concept
In recovery, don’t be surprised if you are highly motivated one day and don’t give a damn the next.Anon
Everything begins with sobriety, without sobriety there is no program of recovery. But without reversing the deadly traits that underline our addiction there is no positive and lasting sobrietyThe Whitebook
The spiritual connection begins here–by first disconnecting from what we did. And we disconnect from it by sending it away from us as we tell it. This is the point of breakthrough.The Whitebook
Fear, anger and guilt are some of the things we avoid by using our addiction, but avoidance is not deliverance.
We are never more than a few hours from having to make the decision whether we pitch out tents towards Sodom and Gomorrah or towards the Holy Temple.Neal Maxwell
Dear Lord, So far today, I am doing all right. I have not gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish, or self indulgent. I have not wined, cursed or even eaten any chocolate. I have not charged anything on my credit card. But I will be getting out of bed in a minute and I think that I will really need your help then.Unknown
I swear, with Chloe Bear once again as my witness…That my problems and failures will not stop me, nor will they dictate who I am.That I will continue to be my own person. That life is too short, and I will live every day as the best person I can be. That I will grow and that I will change. That I will smile and hold my head high. That this is a new start and a new day. That I will allow myself to cry or sit by myself when I need to. That I will find things to really smile about.Stephen Emond, Happyface
A lot of things are inherent in life -change, birth, death, aging, illness, accidents, calamities, and losses of all kinds- but these events don’t have to be the cause of ongoing suffering. Yes, these events cause grief and sadness, but grief and sadness pass, like everything else, and are replaced with other experiences. The ego, however, clings to negative thoughts and feelings and, as a result, magnifies, intensifies, and sustains those emotions while the ego overlooks the subtle feelings of joy, gratitude, excitement, adventure, love, and peace that come from Essence. If we dwelt on these positive states as much as we generally dwell on our negative thoughts and painful emotions, our lives would be transformed.Gina Lake, What about Now?
Habit is habit, and not to be flung out of the window by any man, but coaxed down-stairs one step at a time.Mark Twain
Our courage gives a place for our commitment to save us.Roger Stark, The Waterfall Concept
Recovery is like a jigsaw puzzle, but you must collect the pieces from many different places.Roger Stark, The Waterfall Concept
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.Reinhold Niebuhr
You can get the monkey off your back, but the circus never leaves town.Ann Lamott
Listen to God with a broken heart. He is not only the doctor who mends it, but also the father who wipes away the tears.Criss Jami
A fine glass vase goes from treasure to trash, the moment it is broken. Fortunately, something else happens to you and me. Pick up your pieces. Then, help me gather mine.Vera Nazrian, The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration
A bridge of silver wings stretches from the dead ashes of an unforgiving nightmareto the jeweled vision of a life started anew.Aberjhani, The River of Winged Dreams
If you think you are having a problem with God, just try to imagine the problem He is having with you! There is no way to know God’s Will unless I do it. Surrender means following the direction God’s finger is pointing.Anon.
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If we did autopsies on relapses, the most prevalent listed finding would be: Relapse due to self inflicted wounds. Self inflicted wounds occur when we focus the considerable self destructive weapons in our arsenal, to hurt and maim, our oldest, truest friend, ourselves. One addict explains, “I got all up