acceptance 8A thought from John.

Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today (Big Book of AA). In life change is inevitable. Just look at the weather or changes we experience as we age. How we react to that change can give us solace or cause us much discomfort. Steven Covey has been credited with saying “that life is about 10% of what happens to us and 90% about how we react to it.”

When we are left to ourselves to react to life we seem to bumble around, when you add the problem of addiction to the experience the problems and consequences seem to multiply. We avoid change and those who ask us to stop using. Our perceptions are blurred, we begin to resent others for no apparant reason, we react with anger and often hurt the ones we love. We withdraw from those who choose the clean and sober life. We hang around with those who use like us.

In Recovery we found change we can live with. We learned to let go of control and lean on a Power Greater than ourselves. We learned to accept responsibilty for our actions and what we say. We learned to make ammends to those we have offended. We learned to forgive others and ourselves. We learned to take better care of ourselves and began to care about the welfare of others.

How do we find all that you say. For me it was in a simple prayer I learned while working in addiction. We used it to close our sessions, to remind us who it is that can help us change. We ask Him (God) to help us accept the things we cannot change,, for the courage to change the things we can and the wisdom to know the difference. With God’s help we can more productively focus on the 90% and learn what we are supposed to learn from the 10% that happens to us . There are great blessings in store if we follow the path. We are promised a new joy and happiness.

As we embark upon our recovery journey do not take the first step alone. He will assist us at every step and turn if we will but ask. May you find Him now.