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When?

When? If not now, when? Questions of recovery.  We are not asked them just once in our recovery life.  But several times as we passage along the recovery highway, we come to stations of new commitment.  Places where we must … Continue reading

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Make yourself available for recovery…

One of the requirements for recovery or the healing from an addiction, is that we make ourselves available for it. On the physical level, we have to be present for meetings, counseling, reading, all of the activities that help gain … Continue reading

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A Call for Spouses Stories

Hi, I am Roger Stark, author of “the Waterfall Concept; A blueprint for addiction recovery.”   I have begun compiling a new book entitled ”The Spouses Guide to Addiction Recovery.”  I have decided upon a format that follows Alcoholics Anonymous”s … Continue reading

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Disarming the Triggers

In the history of the recovery world, when the term “trigger” (an event or situation that causes acting out,) was brought into the lexicon, recovery helpers quickly adopted the concept. Everyone was talking about triggers and what to do about … Continue reading

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This isn’t a little cleanup and coat of paint job…

Addicts generally come into addiction recovery, thinking that it is no big deal. The higher the intellect or IQ of an addict, the more likely they will believe that the war with addiction will be won in a matter of … Continue reading

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Mood Management

“My mind is a bad neighborhood that I try to not go into alone.” While Anne Lamott’s humorous adage makes us smile, she does identify a significant problem for many: The moods found in the ‘hood of our mind can … Continue reading

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When Food is the Addiction

As an addiction counselor, I frequently meet with skepticism when I refer to food addictions. “How can food be an addiction? Don’t we have to eat?” people ask. Well, yes. From our earliest moments of life, we eat and find … Continue reading

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Winning the day…

There is probably no more used and worn phrase in the recovery lexicon than “One day at a time.”  Yet seldom does a recovery discussion wander very far from it.  This one day we are living is where our recovery … Continue reading

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Be Not Afraid…Be Not Dismayed.

Please consider the following points about how we might better manage our emotional lives  This is the outline for part of a recent presentation. Be Not Afraid: The Lord has said, Fear thou not; for I am with thee…I will … Continue reading

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I want what I want, when I want it…The Addict’s Mantra

An addict’s mantra is, “I want what I want when I want it,” and his or her emotion-based decision-making process is driven by it. The urge to use drugs has become stronger than the will to say “no,” and it … Continue reading

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