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    About Choice and Addiction About Choice and Addiction

    About Choice and Addiction

About Choice and Addiction

When the conversation turns to addiction, “Why don’t they just quit?” is often the first question asked. New research is indicating that addicts and alcoholics may be able to do just that: choose their way out of their addictive behaviors, with the right set of incentives and consequences. The understanding of addiction and best treatment practices has come along way in the last 80 years. In the ’30s and ’40s alcoholics and drug misusers were thought of as moral derelicts. Treatment consisted of long visits to the sanitarium where little help was offered other than an atmosphere of abstinence. It was […]

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    Living on a Movie Set Living on a Movie Set

    Living on a Movie Set

Living on a Movie Set

Being an addict is like living life on a movie set.  It looks real, feels real, but is only a shell, a facade that is far from the parameters of reality.  The condemning problem is that the addict doesn’t recognize it. In our minds the “set” is nothing but real.  We act out our fantasy life within the view of all around us maintaining a blind eye to reality.  We are convinced they will stay “on script” no matter how outrageous our behavior becomes.  That is impossible, they don’t have the script, only we do, they are living in the […]

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    My Higher Power and Me My Higher Power and Me

    My Higher Power and Me

My Higher Power and Me

There was a tremendous spurt of recovery for me when I first heard the phrase, “Turn my mind and will over to my Heavenly Father for His care and keeping.”  My up bringing had included faith and regular interaction with God, but I had never contemplated that my submission to Him should be so described. I guess I held a sort of Old Testament view of Him being the “great and terrible” and my job was to run around and keep as many of those commandments as I could to avoid being outside when the door was shut. As I began […]

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    You Know How I Am … You Know How I Am …

    You Know How I Am …

You Know How I Am …

An addicts prayer:  “God, help me to serve others, because, you know how I am.” Indeed, He does know how we are.  As addicts we share a common heritage of being concerned with ourselves first.  Our “I want what I want, when I want it,” mantra is never far from running our show.  The antidote we must take as often as we can is to serve others. Surprisingly, we often don’t realize how selfish and self centered we are.  Our addiction comes with a nice auxiliary package of blindness that helps us ignore that.  We very often think that we […]

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    Remember the Rose Remember the Rose

    Remember the Rose

Remember the Rose

The great American psychologist Albert Ellis once said, “Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it is conditional.” Indeed, the finding of a healthy self-esteem is the greatest mental health challenge many face in their lifetime. Individual worth (and the self-esteem that is harvested from it) is not situational and should not be established by comparison, evaluation or an individual’s last great or terrible accomplishment. Those are the conditional elements Ellis was referring to. They are often not within an individual’s control. “Life happens” as the street therapist would say. Russel Seigenberg, Ph.D., of Logan, Utah, […]

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    Not all Putts Fall Not all Putts Fall

    Not all Putts Fall

Not all Putts Fall

Anyone that imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he’s been robbed.  the fact is most putts don’t drop, most beef is tough, most children grow up to just be people, most successful marriages require a high degree of toleration, most jobs are more often dull than otherwise …The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride.  (Gordon B Hinckly)

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    Sometimes we just have to retreat to what we know is true… Sometimes we just have to retreat to what we know is true…

    Sometimes we just have to retreat to what we know is true…

Sometimes we just have to retreat to what we know is true…

It has happened several times to me.  Life can be complicated, confusing.  It’s easy to lose our bearings. While backpacking with family a few years ago, we lost the trail when we entered into a very large clearcut area.  No sign of the trail remained, no markers on trees that were now gone.  We struggled to figure out where we should go.  Only by retreating to where we entered the clear cut and using map and compass could we determine the approximate exit point.  After a little exploration the trail appeared before us and we continued on our way.  By […]

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    There is another way… There is another way…

    There is another way…

There is another way…

I often meet people at their worst moments.  Years of struggle and frustration, pain and self-destructiveness drive them to knock on my door.  Not necessarily because they think that I have the answers, but because they know they do not. Life has not worked out according to their plan.  But then not many plan to develop an addiction.  What is the song from Les Miserable say, “I had a dream my life would be so different from this hell I am living.”  And it isn’t just addiction that can derail us.  Things like low self esteem, anxiety, depression, shame and […]

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    When? When?

    When?

When?

When? If not now, when? Questions of recovery.  We are not asked them just once in our recovery life.  But several times as we passage along the recovery highway, we come to stations of new commitment.  Places where we must leave the old behind and assume the new. These questions are not easy answered, and more specifically they are not easily implemented.  We so resist change, even when it is for the better.  Even when it would transform us from fearful, anxious or depressed, we resist.  Even when change would mean freedom from our darkness, our loneliness and frustrations we […]

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    Make yourself available for recovery… Make yourself available for recovery…

    Make yourself available for recovery…

Make yourself available for recovery…

One of the requirements for recovery or the healing from an addiction, is that we make ourselves available for it. On the physical level, we have to be present for meetings, counseling, reading, all of the activities that help gain understanding and build skills.  AA’ers often take on the 90 meetings in 90 days commitment, putting themselves physically in the way of recovery, placing themselves in a place where recovery is known to occur.  They are then available for recovery. The concept makes sense, but many addicts find reasons to resist.  They avoid meetings because it will be embarrassing to […]