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    Addiction Treatment Failure?  Inquire Within! Addiction Treatment Failure?  Inquire Within!

    Addiction Treatment Failure? Inquire Within!

Addiction Treatment Failure? Inquire Within!

Recovery is a bit of a beast. Many might say a beast on steroids. It does not die easily. The quote from the SA Whitebook says it all, “I don’t need help quitting, I have quit a 1000 times. I need help STAYING QUIT!” So how do we stay quit? That question has no easy answer, but we do know a few things. AA has announced for years that ½ measures avail us nothing. We must be all in! We must maintain and practice the Attitudes of Recovery. Willingness to submit to the process, Commitment to stay the course, Courage […]

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    Reclaiming Your Addicted Brain Reclaiming Your Addicted Brain

    Reclaiming Your Addicted Brain

Reclaiming Your Addicted Brain

Reclaiming Your Addicted Brain   (1/3 off this week!) Newest work from Roger’s pen with co-author Irwin Morse explores the “How” of coming back from having an addicted brain. The story follows George, an alcoholic and sex addict, through some of his acting out and mental processing as an addict.  The story then turns to the process of his recovery.  Along the way clinical commentary accompanies the narrative, shedding light and understanding on the process.  The illustrations provide those still in the struggle of profound examples of their own addictive behaviors.  The illustrations are followed by clear “How To” steps […]

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    DO NOT let the Pirates Onboard! DO NOT let the Pirates Onboard!

    DO NOT let the Pirates Onboard!

DO NOT let the Pirates Onboard!

In his best seller memoir, “Night of the Gun,” David Carr likens addiction to a band of pirates that approach, overtake, and common-deer our ship of life. After the capture, we find our true self is put in chains, tortured, or, learn that the pirates require our very lives. Carr suggests we defend ourselves. “When the inner pirate in your subcortex is seeking permission to come aboard, consider that if you get through that day (without letting them board) there may be many others. Trust God, not the pirate.” Pirates have achieved a renewed, mischievous sort of respect in our […]

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    Self Inflicted Wounds Self Inflicted Wounds

    Self Inflicted Wounds

Self Inflicted Wounds

If we did autopsies on relapses, the most prevalent listed finding would be: Relapse due to self inflicted wounds.  Self inflicted wounds occur when we focus the considerable self destructive weapons in our arsenal, to hurt and maim, our oldest, truest friend, ourselves.  One addict explains, “I got all up in my head,” preceding the damage report. Who hasn’t observed a friend having a world class pity party, on his way to acting out. These are the self inflicted wounds. Many deal with issues not of their own making, unrequested trauma, genetic or cultural issues not of their choosing. These […]

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    Misperceived Reality Misperceived Reality

    Misperceived Reality

Misperceived Reality

If you are like most addicts, you are unaware of parts of yourself, including your feelings. Without that self-knowledge, you misperceive your own reality. (Patrick Carnes) Our feelings and emotions have a great guiding purpose in our life, if we lose contact with them or misperceive them we get lost quickly. It isn’t easy creating an addiction. We may quickly fall in love with our drug of choice but to create and maintain an addictive lifestyle requires the creation of numerous supporting and sustaining elements. We do, after all, have to live with ourselves and in doing that, we find […]

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    This Moment is all We Have … This Moment is all We Have …

    This Moment is all We Have …

This Moment is all We Have …

One of the great realities life forces upon us, is we only have this particular moment in which to live.  Our life experience unfolds in our allotted number of present moments.  Our existence only occurs, present moment by present moment.  We cannot exist in the past nor the future.  Reality is based exclusively in the present moment and we ought to make every effort to occupy these moments as they occur. Life’s great accomplishments happen in their own unique moments.  We are born in our beginning moment and close our lives with the moment of death.  We love in the […]

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    About Choice and Addiction About Choice and Addiction

    About Choice and Addiction

About Choice and Addiction

When the conversation turns to addiction, “Why don’t they just quit?” is often the first question asked. New research is indicating that addicts and alcoholics may be able to do just that: choose their way out of their addictive behaviors, with the right set of incentives and consequences. The understanding of addiction and best treatment practices has come along way in the last 80 years. In the ’30s and ’40s alcoholics and drug misusers were thought of as moral derelicts. Treatment consisted of long visits to the sanitarium where little help was offered other than an atmosphere of abstinence. It was […]

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    2nd Hand Addiction 2nd Hand Addiction

    2nd Hand Addiction

2nd Hand Addiction

The dangers of secondhand smoke have become well known and many in the community are pushing to protect children. But cigarette smokers, however, are not the only ones that compromise the health of their family with addictive behavior. Misusers of alcohol, drugs and those engaged in process addictions (sex, gambling, shopping) create emotional dysfunction that intrudes into the lives of those within the addict’s sphere of influence and challenge their well-being. While the addict may not be exposing others to a physical drug as the smoker does with nicotine, the intrusion remains real. It doesn’t stop with just family but […]

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    Recovery, It Ain’t Over ‘Til It’s Over Recovery, It Ain’t Over ‘Til It’s Over

    Recovery, It Ain’t Over ‘Til It’s Over

Recovery, It Ain’t Over ‘Til It’s Over

Yogi Berra taught us all that it ain’t over til the fat lady sings!  The process of recovery has a similar final act. To the general public, the term “recovery” is seen as “someone who is trying to stop using alcohol or other drugs.” (NCADD)   It then follows that the process of recovery is accomplished when we stop using.  Achieving the thing we call sobriety. The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) recently undertook to quantify what the process of recovery might look like.  Their work yielded this definition:  “Recovery is a process of change whereby individuals […]

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    Living on a Movie Set Living on a Movie Set

    Living on a Movie Set

Living on a Movie Set

Being an addict is like living life on a movie set.  It looks real, feels real, but is only a shell, a facade that is far from the parameters of reality.  The condemning problem is that the addict doesn’t recognize it. In our minds the “set” is nothing but real.  We act out our fantasy life within the view of all around us maintaining a blind eye to reality.  We are convinced they will stay “on script” no matter how outrageous our behavior becomes.  That is impossible, they don’t have the script, only we do, they are living in the […]