Rules of Recovery

When you are LDS and find yourself trapped in an addiction, recovery can seem impossible. Here is a list of rules taken from The Waterfall Concept, the new standard in LDS addiction recovery books, that will guide you to a healing conclusion!  If you aren’t following these rules, you probably aren’t experiencing recovery from your addiction.  These rules are for the early part of recovery, there is another set for advanced recovery work.

Waterfall Concept, A blueprint for addiction recovery, also provides, in addition to these rules, a list of tools and skills that we need to develop to find recovery.  The book also provides a list of benchmarks that should appear as an addict proceeds through the recovery process.  Those benchmarks serve as a witness for addicts and family members that progress is being made. When they do not appear we face the reality that recovery is not being accomplished.

The Rules of Early Recovery for the LDS Addict Seeking Recovery.

1.  Shut up and do the work.  Your best thinking got you here, so don’t try to think your way out. Just get humble, very very humble and teachable and do the work of recovery.

2.   Don’t believe you own BS.  Denial has many voices.

3.  Make confession, full and complete.  When you kill the secrets you begin to kill the addiction.

4.  Remove all access to your addiction.  Destroy any sources, contacts or relationships that were part of your acting out.  Throw out the trash!

5.   Start working the Twelve Steps.

6.  Turn your will and your life over to the Savior for His care and keeping (and leave it there!)  Submit, submit, submit.  Develop and attitude of submission.  (Step three of the Twelve Steps)

7.  Find support groups, a sponsor, therapists who understand addiction and your faith.  Your recovery is like a jigsaw puzzle, you will find pieces (answers) in many places.

8.    Establish and maintain sobriety.

9.    Keep a Recovery Journal.

10.  Find your feelings.  Reconnect with your emotional self.

11. Move from your emotional based decision making process to a spiritually based decision making process.

12.  Become ridiculously accountable.

13.  Begin a quest to find serenity, a benchmark of recovery

Check the rules for advanced recovery, tools and skills needed for recovery and the benchmarks that mark our progress found in The Waterfall Concept, A blueprint for addiction recovery by clicking here.

2 Responses to Rules of Recovery

  1. B says:

    Excellent Rules for Recovery! All I can do is second everything that you have written and say that I too have found that recovery from addiction is achieved by utilizing as many resources and tools as possible. I found that speaking with a number of different therapists helped me as each one had a unique approach to recovery, taught me different skills and utilized diverse methods. Reading books by Patrick Carnes, John Bradshaw and other authors also contributed to my success (not to mention the Book of Mormon which was, and still is, essential to my program of recovery). Learning how to utilize a very important tool – the telephone – has been an enormous help and blessing. I still make daily calls to friends in recovery to check in with, remain accountable to, and to share how I am feeling with them so that I can deal with the challenges of life in a healthy way. Finally, something that also changed my life was learning how to do, what I call, emotions journaling. We are counseled to keep a journal by the LDS church, but an emotions journal is different for me than a journal I use to make a record of special events or spiritual experiences. My emotions journal is used to vent, express myself, and just get all of the thoughts and feelings I may be experiencing or repressing out into the open so that they can be released in a healthy way. I cannot emphasize how important it was for me to develop this ability or skill to journal effectively. Anyway, I know that it is in the DOING that we find freedom as we actively work for our recovery. It works if your work it!

    • roger says:

      I like your idea of emotional journaling. It sounds like a great way to understand what is going on inside of us. The Lord has told us to be not dismayed, quieting ourselves and observing our emotional self can bring emotional storms into a manageable range.

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